Word authors with Rosa has a date at Raquel Perera’s house on the outskirts of Madrida place where she has been invited and where they will talk about her book So that you don’t forgetpublished by Espasa editorial (2023) dedicated to Dylan and Almahis two children, and all the children in the world.

Businesswoman specialized in Communication and Marketing, she studied psychology. Profession in which she became involved during the pandemic, founding ‘One Click Therapy’ in 2020, psychotherapy on a digital platformcourses and conferences on self-care and mental health.

With dark skin and a robust cry, cradled by the love of her parents, her two spinal columns, Raquel Perera Navalón was born on March 23. She is a curious, sensitive and restless girl of thought. She was educated in the responsibility of her decisions, she walked with the desire to travel to other places, she was impregnated with the love of her family. Learning to know who she was long before she became a mother.

The birth of Dylan, her first child, made her the happiest woman and mother in the world and at the same time feel that pressure in her chest, that pinch that will never go away. “Every time I look into their eyes, I see all the children and that’s when you understand what life is made of,” says Raquel.

“To be able to educate another, the first thing is to know yourself. Recognize yourself with all the good, the bad and the worst. Knowing each other’s limits, how we react to certain things, our personality, talent, temperament. And as parents we have to set an example,” she tells us.

“Although perfection does not exist, it does raise the goal. My children make me more perfect every day,” she concludes.

Face life with values ​​and self-esteem. Two unclear concepts.

We talk a lot about self-esteem and that is something that has to be developed by oneself. Not so much in loving yourself, but in believing in yourself.

The chances you think you have of achieving something. The more options, experiences you have, the more effort you put into things, your fear goes down in the same proportion as your self-esteem goes up.”

You can’t give your children everything from a young age. Effort is essential for self-esteem whether you achieve it or not.

We are replacing the big values ​​with the smallest ones and they are the most anorexic. A value is what matters to you. And we must know how to choose between the value of love, generosity and effort, and we choose, comfort and immediacy.

I don’t think the values ​​are being lost. Great values ​​are being lost.

Educate by first knowing who you are. Teach our children that sadness and suffering are part of life.

Perera talks about the awareness of the limit and explains that the ego is our self.

When you don’t want to continue growing and you have too many rules, norms, self-deception, a whole library of things that go against your maturity. That’s when you have to get your consciousness higher so that your ego is below it. This way you will be responsible for your actions.

There are people who want to have a very limiting conscience to be right when it matters, blaming others for what happens.

The author invites our children to grow up learning everything they can, knowing that they can make mistakes. Let them know that they can achieve everything they want but they will not be able to have it all.

Today’s children do not know how to wait, in a world where immediacy reigns. Raquel tests her children to make them patient because they are incapable of waiting a minute for something to arrive and that is very serious because in life they are going to have to wait a lot.

Patience is something that has to be exercised like a muscle.

Try not to give them answers, but ask each other many questions and in this way they can freely find their own, although he confesses, “it will be quite impregnated with me.”

There is a pending matter. We are not taught to manage emotions.

Consider that it is experience that defines people, much more than DNA. Because there comes a time when you live unique and unprecedented experiences and you also need to grow up questioning everything your parents have given you, because you were born in a different era and each generation changes.

Raquel gives her children only one piece of advice because they have to try everything: “Do not believe anything unless you experience it for yourself.”

“Here, in the book, I give you certain totally subjective opinions, some things that have a scientific basis, but I play with my experiences and the summary I make of what life has given me,” says the author.

“You have everything in your name and in your blood, everything to find in the instant just the exact corner where you can live.” Soul. My daughter’s name.

Alejandro, his father, talks a lot about the soul. He is very recurring in his songs and I also like to speak from the soul.

The only way I know to love is the one that uses the genderless heart and soul.

It is important to know how to think rather than what to think. This way we will have a broad structure of thought.

We often want to make life easier for children so that they do not suffer so soon, but it is about making them feel the discomfort that they have to experience depending on their age. Its limits.

No one escapes the law of cause and effect.

Nobody escapes from it. It is one of the great principles of humanity. Everything is cause and effect if we thought carefully, we would realize that what we get is a cause, and the cause is ourselves.

There are two realities: The reality of how the world is. And how we perceive it.

The key to what happens to us. All emotions, especially the negative ones. When the reality outside is not what we want to see and we fill our backpacks, between what we inherited and what we learned. When it is not the way we want it to be, we get angry and we blame the world and we feel unhappy and we are waiting for that world to give us something to calm our unhappiness, our anger, and that is not going to happen because the world continues to spin. and he doesn’t care what happens to you.

So we must understand that we cannot change the world but we can change our emotional state.

When the outside world and ours are closer; the interior, the better we will live.

From the moment we are born until we reach adulthood and maturity. We pass 4 states:

Reactivity: We react to stimuli out of pure necessity. Our mind associates it. Cry-eat-pleasure. Trading reactivity for productivity will always be more positive

Dependence. The tantrum and believing you have the right to always have what you want.

False independence.

It appears in adolescence when you think you are the god of Olympus and your parents have no idea. And you think you are capable of doing everything but the reality is that it is a false independence because you have no idea.

Interdependence. Being aware that we have made mistakes encourages us to continue fighting to climb our well-being.

We must work on human potential to understand the nature of emotions and not repress them.

Time is a precious commodity, everything you do needs to be worth it.

Time is a resource that runs out. then when you are aware that every minute that passes does not return. I tell my children that they have to be very clear about what they want to do with their time and, above all, that they use it with generosity and commitment.

So that you don’t forget Dylan and Alma. Letter to her two children. In which they recognize their mother’s voice. She tells me excitedly.

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