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Sentimental counselor Dolly Alderton to women: “Let’s treat each other with tenderness and compassion”

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Author of Everything I know about love, Dolly Alderton just published with Editorial Planeta Dear dolly. More than 50,000 readers have found help in coping with life’s failures in this sentimental counselor.

“Dear Dolly, I need help. An advice. Yours. I don’t know what to do”.

Write a column in the first person admitting the defects, errors and disasters of the writer, became a challenge. Although what she had always wanted to be was a sentimental counselor.

Giving advice does not mean that you have control of your life, she explains: “I myself am incapable of predicting where my experiences are going to go or how my life is going to go. The only thing I can do is experience everything possible and through everyone around me. In this chaotic life that we lead, perhaps, it does give me a certain feeling of control to try to answer my readers’ questions.”

Dolly Alderton, ‘Sunday Times’ columnist and author of ‘Everything I Know About Love’

Receiving similar questions from different people could very well yield the same answer.. In fact, for decades, one counselor received so many that she herself created a kind of manual for her team, relating the problems to the answers: “This made me feel comforted because it gives a certain peace of mind to think that the problems are common and that many people “They have been through the same situation.”

“We tend—I myself—to submit to the masochistic pleasure of constantly look at our ex’s profile. A habit that only leads us to feel pain. No information we find on their networks will make us feel better. It won’t have to be related to us either. I propose, every time you feel the need or temptation to check it, that you assume that you are hurting yourself.”

“I receive a flood of letters that a person is in charge of selecting within the month. They send me about thirty or forty. He chooses four and answers the following month. To prevent it from being a joke letter, I do all the necessary checks,” acknowledges Dolly Alderton.

I get excited when I receive letters about problems I haven’t heard about. never or are worded in an unusual way. The feminist part of me usually gets excited when I receive a letter that is not about love or children.”

“One of the great themes to reflect on is our eternal return to the starting box,” he explains: “Our childhood marks us in many ways. Our adult decisions can be a correction of what we did as children or a replica of our childhood. Is a very human instinct and we tend to go back to what we experienced. Talking about it with those close to us is a good option.”

“As a consultant I have a basic obligation that has to do with compassion as a starting point. I try to answer all these questions because it is essential to humanize all the people who are writing to me and thus be able to give my advice.”

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