The couple goes through these three ways of feeling love to build their relationship, grow on the sexual-affective level and mature in crises.

Before falling in love, there is a phase called pre love where there is no love between two people as such, but rather physical and sexual attraction. Then begins the phase of emotional infatuation where there is a love that accept the whole personincluding their defects and there is a total dedication to that person on an emotional, physical, sexual and emotional level.

Another way to feel love is quiet love, which is what is usually called the action of loving one another. This type of love allows us to enjoy much deeper and higher emotions, but it can also be lived as something boring and routine, including anger and arguments. Within this love, making love is considered to be a duty and not just something pleasurable as happens in pre-love and falling in love.

Regarding love in crisis and source of suffering, it is considered that in love there are times when it feels that way and it is very painful. It is a painful love, of rejection and with a very bitter taste. But this type of love must be experienced because crises are essential as opportunities for personal growth and for the couple to achieve fulfillment..

Love and Psychological Therapy

In summary, the couple goes through these three ways of feeling love to build their relationship, grow on the sexual-affective level, mature in crises and to negotiate cohabitation agreements that are more in line with satisfying the needs of both.

It is common for the couple to look for psychological help when he experiences love in crisis and problems of coexistence, where Therapy becomes that opportunity for the couple to learn to transform the crisis into growth that helps them transcend their difficulties and rebuild themselves as people.